Sorry for the large triggering image, I don’t know how to greybox it, but this needs to be dealt with !!
WARNING: #rape tw #rape culture #victim blaming…
What you seem to be consistently missing here is this: When a woman goes out and gets blind drunk that does not hurt anyone else. Unless she then gets behind the wheel of a car or starts a bar fight in an alcohol-induced rage, this action hurts absolutely no one… except maybe her liver.
When a rapist goes out and rapes someone, they are bringing harm to another person.
You’re not giving equal consideration to these people. You might mean something different, but what you’re saying is that you view someone who is not committing any harmful acts as just as responsible for the harmful acts committed against them as the perpetrator. That is the very definition of victim-blaming.
I don’t disagree that what you suggested for a ‘designate driver’ to watch out for you is a bad idea, but the issue here is that you don’t seem to be getting it through your head that the person who has been raped is not responsible for it. No one ever has that coming to them.
To say that they do is, as I said before, equating rape to a punishment for women who are drunk. Forget your friends? Have a bit more than you intended? You are punished for it with rape because you were being irresponsible.
Your rapist might go to jail, but let’s look at the statistics for conviction for rape. Or how about in the UK? Maybe the White House’s 2014 report has something good to say? The statistics out there are bleak and that’s for societies that have the privilege of a working criminal justice system. Saying you disapprove of the rapist while turning around and wagging your finger at the victim… that’s part of what’s wrong with how things work right now.
"One study indicated that two-thirds of survivors have had their legal cases dismissed, and more than 80% of the time, this contradicted her desire to prosecute. According to another study of 526 cases in two large cities where sexual assault arrests were made, only about half were prosecuted. Prosecutors were more likely to file charges when physical evidence connecting the suspect to the crime was present, if the suspect had a prior criminal record, and if there were no questions about the survivor’s character or behavior." (From the White House report, Page 17)
I hope you can see what’s wrong with that and why there’s so much fervor here about the above poster.